The Pandemic and The Fear it Has Created

Hey everyone! Welcome back to the blog!

I know, you are probably like, Savannah you already have posted about the pandemic in your “The New Normal” post. While that is true, something happened the other day that really got me thinking.

My mother fell and hurt herself outside on the concrete. She had slipped on some leaves and hurt her ankle and back and is just in a lot of general pain. But even with all this pain, she didn’t go to the doctor. Why? Because she is afraid of not being able to work should she get the virus. She is self-employed which is part of the reason for this, but if your company is anything like the one I work for, you have to use your own PTO for your time off from the virus. But here’s the problem, what if you don’t have PTO? If this is the case, chances are you would avoid the doctor’s office at all costs too because you have bills to pay and refuse to risk exposure to the virus.

This is a major problem surrounding the pandemic right now. We are afraid of going to the doctor’s office which is actually so bad for your health. Your health is very important but what we think of the doctor’s office right now is not that. In fact, at this point in time, we considered the doctor’s office a risky place because there’s a heightened chance of getting the virus from here. Heck, we hear someone cough now and think that they have the virus. This perception is dangerous because we would rather be in pain than get exposed to the virus. We would rather allow our health to decline to stay safe.

This reality is crazier the more you think about it. In all reality, we don’t know where the virus could come from. You are just as susceptible to the virus in Walmart as you are in the doctor’s office. This is simply due to the fact that you really don’t know who has the virus and who doesn’t. A lot of people are asymptomatic as is which makes it that much more difficult to know who is sick and who is not. You can feel perfectly fine with the virus which is perhaps the scariest part about it.

That being said, while you should always be cautious and safe when going anywhere outside of home right now. If you are in intense pain, if you think something is wrong, make a doctor’s appointment. If you are concerned about catching the virus there, take proper precautions. Most doctor’s offices are taking temps and asking questions prior to allowing entrance to the office, but you should take your own protocols. But don’t sit at home and allow your health to deteriorate out of fear. Long-term, this is not the answer. Your health is so important.

Another option that is always out there if you is virtual visits. A ton of doctor’s offices are doing virtual visits to help protect you and ease your fears about getting the virus. But this just an option if you are afraid to go in the doctor’s offices.

I want to thank you for reading this post! I know that living in this pandemic is definitely not easy, but we will get through this. We will thrive and survive.

Tell me in the comments below, how do you feel about going to the doctor right now?

Why Volunteer – A Personal Stance

Hello all! Welcome back to the blog!

Today I want to talk about something close to my heart, something that some may think is a little sappy, that something is volunteering.

Honestly, I didn’t start volunteering until a few months ago. I didn’t think I needed to volunteer, I mean, why work and not be paid? Right? Wrong. Volunteering is not working if you find what is worth it for you. I started volunteering for a stupid reason, I wanted it for my resume at the time. I was about to graduate college and thought that it would make me stand out to recruiters. While this is partially true, I have grown fond of volunteering. Currently I am volunteering with a hospice agency calling families to check in to see how they are coping. While it is not always easy, I can definitely say that it has been rewarding.

Now then, volunteering is not for everyone and I am not saying that it is. However, I am saying that it is worth it to go online and search what types of volunteer work is out there.

You don’t want to have to leave your house or have no way of getting to your volunteer location? No problem, there is plenty of online volunteer work out there.

You don’t want to have a time commitment? That’s okay, there are plenty of one-time volunteering opportunities.

Generally speaking, you can find the opportunity that you are looking for. And if you don’t want to volunteer ever, don’t. Everything is up to you but I want to give you 5 reasons that you should volunteer so here are 5 reasons that volunteer work is worth your time!

  1. You can make someone else’s day and make another person smile!
  2. I mean, it does look good on a resume, just saying.
  3. It is convenient no matter what your situation is!
  4. It can give you a whole new perspective on life!
  5. Finally, it is calming! You’re doing something good which makes you feel happier, and if your volunteer work feels like a burden, find somewhere new to volunteer.

Long-term, volunteering is not meant to feel like a chore. Quite the contrary, volunteering is like a job. In a job, you should never feel like you have worked a day in your life and the same goes for volunteering.

If you decide you want to get into volunteering or even just see what is out there, Volunteer Match is a great website that shows you all of the volunteer opportunities that you could possibly want to look at!

Thank you for reading! I appreciate your time and I hope that this post was able to help you! Have a great day! Tell me in the comments, have you ever volunteered? If so, was it worth it for you? If not, would you ever consider volunteering?

Embracing Loss – It’s Not Easy and I Still Am Not Sure I Get It

Hello y’all and welcome back to the blog!

It’s me again and this post is more or less for me to vent but I also think that it is a very important important topic to discuss.

Back on August 2nd, I turned 21. Though that day was supposed to be many great things, my aunt Delores passed that day. We knew that it was coming, she had been in a hospice house for at least a few days. But it still came as a shock to me. And yet, I haven’t cried. I’ve wanted to cry, but I haven’t. I don’t know what is holding me together, I don’t know if it is my faith or something else. I remember the day she passed, not only because it was my birthday, but also because just a few hours prior to her passing, I prayed. Now, I’m not that religious, I want to be more involved in my religion, but I accept that I’m not. But I prayed anyways. I prayed that I wanted my aunt Delores to be out of pain. I prayed that I would be okay if she passed on my birthday and that I just wanted her to be free of her pain. God answered those prayers quickly. I remember when I prayed this, I didn’t think that my prayers would be answered that quick. But they did. And just like that, in a moments notice, my favorite aunt passed without me even getting the chance to visit her. And yet, I think I’m fine. I somehow have held it together.

This story is my first. I had never had a family member die. Not once before her and I had just turned 21. Most of my family members had died before I was born. So I didn’t fully understand it when others cried about their loved ones dying. I know how foolish this sounds. I know how innocent this sounds. I know how blessed I am to have gone that long without having a family member die. But life hit me like a semi-truck on a highway. Life and reality slapped me. But the funny thing is, I’m not sure how to act still. I’m in pain from her passing and yet, I know that I’ll be okay. I know that she is in a better place, but if I didn’t have my faith, I don’t know if I would’ve held it together. Coping has kept me together.

I know that this was not an exceptionally long post but I definitely appreciate you reading! It means the world to have your continued support!

I hope you all have a wonderful day! Tell me in the comments below, how do you cope? How do you handle hardships?

Why Wanting Therapy is Not a Bad Thing

Hello all! Welcome back to the blog~

Today’s post is partially to tackle a major social stigma and the other half would be to just explain how therapy can be helpful even when you may not believe it can help.

Society has never been that open to mental illness. In conversations with others, it is instinctual to say one of two things when someone says “how are you?” Those two things are “I’m fine” or “I’m good.” There is nothing in-between. We are definitely taught from a young age that it is only socially acceptable to say something good. If you say that you are not okay, you are labeled and stigmatized. This does not make much sense though because we always will have a day when we don’t feel okay. We all have days when we just stare at a wall and think. But this is stigmatized and something must be wrong with you if you are not great even for a moment.

That is our society and while we have made advances as a society in accepting mental illness, we still have a long way to go to overcome such a long stigma.

You may be wondering at this point if I am ever going to get to the topic in the headline. Well I am now!

Wanting therapy is not a bad thing. For the longest time I thought that you had to be crazy to be in therapy. I truly thought that therapy was only for those who were really crazy. Again, social stigmatization taking over. But when I was 16, I was very depressed and had to go to a psych ward for a week. At the time, I thought I was crazy and thought everyone was crazy for thinking I needed help. I thought I was the only one that felt alone, I soon learned I wasn’t. This psych ward changed my life for the better. And yet, when you think of a psych ward, you probably think that I’m crazy. I wasn’t and still am not. I ended up going to therapy shortly after being released. It was life changing. I have fond memories of that therapist because she taught be something very valuable. She taught me that it was okay not to be okay. She taught me that being depressed could happen to anyone but anyone could also survive and overcome it.

Going to therapy is not a bad thing. It could save your life. The best thing about therapy would be that it teaches you that you are not alone. You could go to therapy simply to talk. Therapy is not always what they show in TV shows and movies, it is not always you laying on a couch reevaluating your life. Therapy is a lot of things and is worth it. Even going to one session allows you to get stuff off your chest.

I suppose my point to this post would be that you should ignore the stigma attached to therapy. You should ignore the stigma that there is something wrong with you if you want therapy or if you think you need help. It is okay to not feel okay.

I hope that this post finds you well. If you ever need someone to talk to in an emergency, please call the suicide hotline. Their number is 800-273-8255. Therapy does not have to be constant and even one conversation could make your day ten times better.

Thank you for reading! Have a wonderful day!

“The New Normal” or Whatever You Wanna Call it

Hey all! Welcome back!

When you think of life before the pandemic, what do you imagine? What comes to mind? Can you even remember life before the pandemic came around?

If I’m being honest, life before the pandemic for me is unimaginable. I don’t mean this in a good or bad way, I just can’t remember what we used to call “normal.” Even now, when I’m watching TV shows, I ask myself why the actors are not wearing masks. It sounds strange and a odd question, should I be considering masks a “normal” thing now? Last year, if you would have gone to anywhere at all wearing a mask, you would have just been identified as a criminal. You don’t want your face to be seen, you must be up to no good. And yet, here we are, wearing masks everywhere like nothing has changed.

While some cultures are accustomed to wearing masks when sick out in public, I have grown up in America where, in the past, I would’ve saw someone wearing a mask and thought they were out of their mind or as I said, someone up to no good. I find it interesting how our perception of “normal” has changed so drastically since March. It has only been 8 months since the pandemic began and yet our social perceptions have changed in unimaginable ways.

Let that sink in. It has been only 8 months since our lives changed and the pandemic became important in our lives.

I remember back in March when I thought that the news was overexaggerating how bad COVID-19 would be. I remember how I was planning my cruise that I would go on for my 21st birthday in August. I remember coming home from Spring Break thinking that I would be going back to class in a week. I remember when the stores began to shut down. I remember when the state shut down and schools went virtual.

I remember a lot of things and yet, I can’t imagine going into a Walmart now without a mask. I can’t imagine going to any public gathering without a mask.

That being said, the “new normal” is what our perception is and how it has changed. So should it even be considered a “new normal” to begin with, or is this just generally “normal?”

Before I finish this lovely post, I ask one thing of you. Please wear a mask. Stop the spread of COVID-19. We have been talking about weird and our “new normal,” this is one thing that I feel I should not have to say but working in the senior living industry has showed me the damage of this virus. While cases have been steadily going up and down depending on where you are, this pandemic is far from over. Countries outside of America are having to begin shutting down again. While we all may not be in the same situation right now, we all have been affected by the pandemic in some way or another.

So please, wear a mask. Save a life. One action can make a major difference in another person’s life.

That’s all folks! I hope you have a wonderful day! Tell me in the comments about your “new normal.” Has life had to change drastically for you?

Why Self-Care is Important

Hello all! I have been on a short hiatus (in case you were wondering) because I have been working overtime and doing homework when I am not working. Kind of boring I know but hey, that’s what brings us to what this post is about.

I am writing this post as a kind of chit chat because, if you are anything like me, you forget to self-care. Sometimes life flies by you and you lose yourself in the process. Sometimes bills creep up on you and you think that it means that you need to work yourself more. While bills are important, your health also is extremely important. It is definitely important to know when to take a breather from schoolwork and work. It is important that you take time to relax at some point.

Self-care is important because you need time to breathe. Self-care may be done in a variety of ways, I mentioned a few in my 10 Ways to Practice Self-Care During a Pandemic post!

Now, I am a work in progress. I don’t always take the time to practice self-care, in fact this post right now is my self-care because it is calming to just sit down and write. I love writing freely with no restrictions like this. While this is my version of how I self-care, your version of how you self-care could be eztremely different because we all are unique.

But I want you to take this post as a sign. Take it as a sign to breathe and decompress and destress. I’ll definitely be posting more in the next few days but I wanted to write this short post as a reminder to myself and others that it’s okay to do nothing and it’s okay to not work your life away!

Thanks for stopping by! Tell me in the comments below, how do you practice self-care? Have a wonderful day!

What They Don’t Tell You About Being an Introvert in College

Hello all! Welcome back to the blog!

This post comes from a lot of different places mentally for me. As someone who is most definitely more introverted than extroverted, I have always had trouble making friends. I have never been able to speak out and ask others to make plans with me especially if I hardly know them. I try and the words won’t come out and I know I’m not alone in this. I’m not outgoing, and I know that. So I have plenty of reasons to write this post, but the major reason is that I want others to know the reality of college when you are not the outgoing one, the reality when you are introverted.

The reality of college changes for everyone so this is just my perspective~ take it with a grain of salt and know that your reality may be entirely different from mine.

But let’s begin from the beginning, there I was, just transferred from a community college (which was larger than my four-year by the way!) to complete the rest of my bachelors degree at a four-year school. I was timid (who am I kidding, I still am!). I wanted to meet people but didn’t know how, so I did what you are probably doing now or even did in the past. I looked up on google, “how to make friends in college,” simple yet ~elegant~. Then while reading the various articles, I learned, making friends at college means that you need to be outgoing. One of the common tips is to leave your door open. I really, and I mean REALLY was not comfortable with that. The next tip was to randomly introduce yourself to your classmates. Again, I am not great at speaking to new people. It’s not my thing.

So at this point, you may be wondering, “did you ever figure out a good way to make friends in college or is this ~clickbait~?”

Yes, I did figure out a way to make friends. Eventually after trying many methods that is. But the way I made friends was cliche and simple. I joined a club. To be honest, this was my last resort because I was unsure what club I really would want to join and become a member of. I’m picky in that way, I didn’t want the club to be a waste of my time and even, a waste of what little money I have. Yes, I do identify as a broke college student. My identity does not define me but I am still ~broke~.

After joining the club, I began to finally, slowly find my way through the dynamic of a college social life. The reason why I don’t want you to believe that my experience will be your experience is because I was a transfer student. I was starting my junior year when I transferred so all the cliques (yes, you never escape that clique lifestyle from college) were already formed. Transferring left me feeling alone and unwanted in some ways. I didn’t know how to make friends because I was not outgoing.

Everyone knew everyone, except me. Or at least that’s how it felt at the time. I felt alone for a very long time. I still feel alone sometimes especially while I have been back living at home because of our beloved COVID. But I’m not alone in this life and neither are you! I found where I belonged at college and my world changed for the better. My happiness continued to grow, then as I said, COVID happened, but that’s a story for a different day. I am still friends with people from college that I haven’t been able to see for awhile and they mean the world to me whether they realize it or not.

The key thing to remember here is that loneliness is temporary. You will find friends in college, it may come easy to you, or it may be more difficult for you like it was for me. But once you find the right people, you will be a million times happier than before. So if you have just recently begun college, keep your head up and find a club. A club worked for me, it may be what work for you. Find a setting you are comfortable in and thrive in it!

Thank you for reading! Tell me in the comments below if my story was helpful to you? Was it easy for you to find friends in college or did it take time?

The Issue of Being the Omnivert

Hello all! Happy Tuesday!

We have all finally made it through the week!! Sometimes the weeks fly by and sometimes they go slower and for me, this was a slow week. But now we can continue on to the weekend!

Might as well jump into things.

When people are talking about who they are, the question will always come into play, “are you an introvert or an extrovert?” This question is always difficult for me to answer. How do you know if you are completely one or the other? How do you actually know? Personally, I believe I am both. An omnivert. On one hand, I’m a social butterfly at work but in school or public, I am far from anything social. Familiarity is crucial in whether I am a social queen or not.

But does that make me an introvert because I am slightly more uncomfortable in situations that are not familiar?

I don’t actually think that these factors make me fit into one box or the other. One day I’ll feel social and one day I want to be left alone to myself. It’s a strange concept that is often unspoken. Why? Because to fit in, you have to be part of one group, not both. In our sometimes broken society, the mold is what you have to fit into, otherwise, you are the outcast.

But being an omnivert does not make you different. It makes you normal.

When people ask you whether you are an introvert or extrovert, what do you say? Do you deliberate or do you know immediately. You see, everyone is an omnivert in some way usually even if it is mild. You may lean closer to one side than the other, but which box do you fit into will always be the question. You can be an introvert but be an extrovert with your friends or you can be an extrovert but need time alone sometimes. There will never be a right answer to this question. We know who we are to ourselves, but who are we to other people? Who do you want to be to other people I should say? You may completely fit into one box, or not. You may be a social butterfly, or not. Regardless, you are who you are and all that counts is staying true to who you are.

The question will always be the same, but will your answer change?

Thank you for reading! I hope you have a wonderful day! Comment below which box you fit into! Are you are an introvert, extrovert, or omnivert?

Why You Should Major in Something You Love

Hello all and welcome back to the blog!

I know, the title of this is direct. But it can also be a little confusing. Something that I have learned while in college is that, if someone does not think your major is good or “the right one,” they will be blunt about it. They will tell you how they feel about what you want to do in life. I’m an English major and I could not tell you how many times I have be ridiculed for not being a STEM major. It can be painful and there were times that I thought about changing my major because of the people telling me that my major was not a “good” major.

But what is actually a “good” major? Is a “good” major one that automatically gets you a job right out of college? Personally, I don’t believe that there is one perfect major, and I don’t think that being a STEM major is the key to getting a good job immediately out of college. It doesn’t matter what your major is, you may not have a job immediately out of college, and that’s okay.

What I do believe is that just because someone tells you that your major isn’t the best one does not mean that you have to switch majors to something that others believe is better. Only major in what you are passionate about. If you major in something you don’t love, you will never love your job completely and will feel as though you are dragging through every day you work. Something will feel missing in your life. Unfortunately this happens to a lot of people. I think that a common idea that circulates around in school is that money and pay is the only thing that matters. If you are not making the ideal amount, is your job even worth it? It is. If you are passionate about your major in college, it is worth it. And if you change your mind and want to switch majors, do it. Don’t let others tell you that you are not smart enough or too smart for your major.

I guess the point that I’m trying to get across is that this is your life. There will be people that don’t like the decisions you make and there will be people that will think they are better than you. And they are not. Your decision is valid as is theirs. Life feels that much more amazing whenever you do something that you are genuinely passionate about.

Do what you love. Not what others would love for you to do. It may sound cheesy but if you are happy with what you do, college major or otherwise, you will never truly work a day in your life.

Thank you for reading! Tell me in the comments what you want to major in or what you majored in? Do you have regrets about choosing one major over another?

10 Ways to Practice Self-Care During a Pandemic

Hello all and welcome back!

I wanted to write this post in hopes of drawing more attention to self-care during the pandemic. The news stations have spoken less and less about the pandemic recently because it has “become boring.” And while I agree with that statement (I got tired of hearing the number of cases), I still believe it is important to know how to practice self-care safely during the pandemic.

Thus, in this post, I will be telling you 10 ways you can practice self-care right now (yes, these tips can be used all the time but PANDEMIC)!

Meditate!

I cannot stress this enough! Meditation has helped me so much, especially when I am stressed. As someone who is always stressed (I’m a grad student, stress is a given), I believe it is important to take a step back and breathe. Just breathe. In through your nose, out through your mouth and so on. To those who have meditated before too, I don’t always focus on not thinking about anything. Honestly my mind roams like crazy, I think about my life and assignments and my dogs and my shopping habits and so on. I understand that many believe that the calm mindset is an essential part of meditation but that has not been the case for. Honestly, meditation works but I don’t think there is a correct way to meditate. Still, meditation is so relaxing~

Do a Face Mask!

I was going to say “do skincare,” but that wouldn’t have been ~accurate~ for the idea I’m going for because let’s be for real. We all have some kind of skincare routine. This routine could be as simple as using a cleanser in the morning or using moisturizer at night. Regardless, I’m not talking about routine. I’m talking about something that most people don’t do enough unless they are a skincare fanatic (you know who you are, I am one of you). Face masks do great things for your skin but I think the best part is that they feel amazing on your skin. I use face masks about four times a week if I remember to do them! Otherwise, I have known people to do them daily or some once a month. Either way, it’s a great way to relax especially if your skin needs that extra boost!

Binge-Watch your Favorite T-V Show!

Maybe this is a given, I don’t know. And this is probably something you are already doing (I know I am, I’m re-watching every episode of Supernatural to avoid my assignments, welcome to the god-given gift called ~senioritis~). Now I wanted to bring this tip up for a different reason. Sometimes, when you are stressed and I mean stressed, you ultimately will focus on the one thing on your mind. Your mind will run rampant with the “OH MY LORDY I FORGOT ABOUT _____.” And that stress is terrible so when you need to back away from the good ol’ college stressors, watch your favorite movie or binge-watch a t-v series. Regardless, focus on something to relax you mind momentarily. Something that will help you forget the issues that surround your daily life.

Sleep!

Now when I say sleep, I mean you should try to go to bed earlier. I know many, and by many, I mean most people my age stay up till 2 AM and then sleep about 3-4 hours and call that “a good nights rest.” Now I personally understand the struggle called ~grad school~, but I still sleep 8 hours a night and don’t have any issues completing my assignments on-time. But I will say, procrastination is the work of evil when it comes to sleep. So if you are one of those people who stay up abnormally late (I was once one of you until my job because I have to wake up at 5 AM every day), try to nap and catch up on your sleep, your body will thank you later. Plus sleep is so relaxing so in essence, you are doing something productive when it comes to your physical and mental health!

Get Food To-Go at a Nice Restaurant!

OK. OK! I’ll just come out and say it, I did almost write “go out to eat.” Now I’m glad I didn’t because the whole point of this post is to tell you ways that you can treat yourself without going to places with large gatherings because PANDEMIC. But honestly, the cases vary from state to state so have fun but stay safe and healthy if you are able to. Restaurants are probably my favorite way to self care, and by restaurants I mean the one, the only, the Olive Garden. The Olive Garden lifts my soul, in essence, I love their spaghetti. So to practice self-care, find your beloved restaurant and get yourself some good food! This is a great way to relax and have something that you may not be able to eat all the time.

Color!

Yes, I said color. No, this is not a drill. When I say color, I mean go get yourself your favorite colored pencils or crayons and head to Walmart. Walmart sells some adorable coloring books that are specifically made to help you de-stress. There are always a variety but I find them so relaxing! If coloring is not your thing, then you can go draw or paint. The point here is to find an outlet to let out your frustrations. Find a medium that you like and use it to release your pent-up feelings. I personally like to draw and color, mostly draw though. You don’t have to be an artist to do any of this either. This is for you to self-care, not others.

Journal!

The best thing about journaling is that you can just write what you feel. Personally, I often feel as though there is no one to talk to about my feelings. This feeling is not easy on me and I know I’m not the only one who feels this pain. This loneliness. So writing down my feelings has helped me not feel as alone. It helps me write out what I’m feeling so that I can feel as though I have someone or something to share it with. I cannot tell you enough how much it has helped me. While I can’t say it will be your thing to do to self-care, I do know that it is worth a try! Plus if you have a cute notebook to write in, you will feel more motivated to write and journal! I know that I love buying cute notebooks for this!

Clean!

If you are like me, you hate cleaning. You know that you need to clean, but you just can’t find the time or motivation to do so. But once your area is clean, you feel free. That’s what I do. My mental health feels instantly better once I have a clean room or house because it’s visually appealing and just calming. A weight has been lifted off your shoulders! Some people love to clean and I must say, I envy that. If I could clean on a whim I would, but I can’t so I purposefully work on keeping my room clean once it is clean. It’s nothing major but it is the most relieving feeling to get a project done such as cleaning!

Light a Candle!

Candles. Must I say more! If you buy me a vanilla-scented candle, I will love you forever. And yes. Yes, I am what you call a basic white girl. I love vanilla-scented anything. Back to my point though, lighting a candle just can bring so much joy to a room. It brings light and an amazing smell. It’s just extremely relaxing! To be honest, I don’t really have much to say about this one because it’s more or less self-explanatory.

Read a Book!

We have officially made it to the last way to practice self-care! Woot! Woot! Reading a book is a great way to practice self-care for a lot of reasons but my favorite is that it helps me get out of my own head. Reading allows you to learn about another persons life, regardless of if the character is fictional or not, you end up invested in their life. My favorite books to read are World War 2 Historical Fiction but there are tons of genres out there and there’s something for everyone. I always used to say I “wasn’t a fan of reading” until I found my favorite genre. You will shed tears for the characters and love or hate them, often the characters will feel real while reading which makes the book even better. Stressed? Read a book. Sad? Read a book. There are a million reasons why reading is a fantastic way to self-care!

Conclusion

Thank you so much for reading! I hope you were able to gain something from reading this post! Self-care is super important right now, especially given the current climate of the world! Tell me below, what tips do you find important when talking about self-care!